Desire Is A Skill.

What desire actually is (and isn’t), why it’s so often misunderstood, and how to reawaken it in ways that feel natural, exciting, and alive.

Welcome to our new series, Speak Your Mind Fully After Dark. Because some conversations are better under the moonlight. Here, we delve into the deeper topics of relationships, intimacy, and self-discovery.

We are starting at the very center of it all, DESIRE.

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We talk about desire like it’s supposed to show up like it’s an on-demand mood, a moment, or some magical force that either arrives or it doesn’t.

But here’s what I want you to know: desire is a skill.

Desire is not a personality trait, and it’s not a fleeting feeling. It’s something you can learn, practice, and rebuild—especially in long-term relationships, where comfort often grows but passion can fade.

This week, we’re diving into what desire actually is (and isn’t), why it’s so often misunderstood, and how to reawaken it in ways that feel natural, exciting, and alive.

In this article:

Why Passion Fades (Even in Good Relationships) | What Really Fuels Desire | How to Rebuild the Spark | Playful Practices to Try This Week

So settle in. Grab your journal. Let’s talk about how to bring aliveness back to the places that feel flat.