Engage Without Expectation: The Art of Letting Go After You’ve Done Your Part.

Learning how to stop managing their response and start trusting your voice. A deeper look at “E” from the FRAME(work): Engage Without Expectation

By Dr. Adrienne Loth & Megan Monahan
Co-creators of Speak Your Mind Fully™

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Let’s talk about the moment after the moment. You know—the one that comes after you’ve done all the “right” things:

✔️ You stayed grounded.

✔️ You reflected on the facts.

✔️ You acknowledged your feelings.

✔️ You made a clear, specific, kind request.

And then… what happens next—the response, or the lack of one—has nothing to do with your worth and everything to do with your ability to release. Whether it’s silence, resistance, or a flat-out no, this is where the FRAME ends and something even more powerful begins: a sense of freedom that comes when you detach with confidence in your communication skills.

Welcome to the “E” in FRAME: Engage Without Expectation.

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Why “E” Might Be the Hardest (and Most Liberating) Step

We love this part. Not because it’s easy, but because it’s a truth serum. “E” is where the work gets real. It’s where self-worth and emotional maturity intersect with effective communication. It’s where you learn, in real time, how to let go.

We often see clients do the emotional equivalent of perfect choreography. They say all the right words. They’re clear, non-blaming, and emotionally honest. And then they wait… frozen, bracing for validation.

But here’s the thing: even the most skillful communication doesn’t guarantee a yes.

Sometimes the other person isn’t ready.
Sometimes they’ve never done what you’re asking.
Sometimes they hear you and just. Don’t. Care.

And it has nothing to do with you.
Their response is simply great information for you to use. And that is the gift.
You learn exactly what you're working with.